Love and Marriage

Today I’m in Wisconsin, Viroqua Wisconsin to be exact, and it’s really a nice little place with gorgeous whether today. My good friend is getting married today which is the reason I am here. So for this post, I’d like to talk about marriage. Marriage is supposed to be the ultimate commitment to your partner under god however; it seems that it’s become more of a tradition than an actual practice of religious faith. In fact, it’s become more of a legal proceeding than anything else. Today marriage is pushed on society through tradition, endorsed by religion, and enforced by the law. It’s one aspect of American life where there is surely not enough separation of church and state.
My mom always told me never to get married, she’d been married three times since she had me, and yet she just recently remarried. (How hypocritical is that?) Most people who are married tell me that it’s the pits. My friend and I were talking about his marriage and the option of divorce that so many take these days. We spoke of an apparent change that people undergo for no apparent reason other than to comply with the status quo. Many of the new marriages wind up in divorce, and divorce court. With regard to his own marriage, he says “{divorce} is not a question of if, but a question of when”. He even told me to relay a message to my friend as he takes the plunge in Viroqua, he said “tell him there’s still time, and not to do it, RUN!”
So if marriage is an institution that drives thirty-eight percent of America to abandon ship, why do we continue to do it? I mean that statistic is true whether its church goers or not. If you ask me, I think that the ultimate commitment is not marriage. The ultimate commitment is to believe in the love that two people share as free individuals without the spurious security of a ring, a legal document, and a religious blessing. If two people want to be together under god then fine, let them go to church but don’t require a legally binding document and marriage license. If two people want to be viewed together by the state as one legal entity, fine, let them form that union and allow them to reap the benefits despite their age, sexual preference, or religious beliefs. I don’t see why love needs to be institutionalized.
So now I’m going to this wedding and I hope for the best for my friend. He’s a smart guy and I’m sure he’s making a decision based on his own best interests. I remember when he proposed to her in New York City (he’s got me running all around for this deal) and his proposal went something to the tune of “I’d like to propose a merger of our two families” as if it were a business transaction. I laughed about it then, but now that I think about it I realize it was a smart way of thinking about marriage. He has accepted it for what it is and understands the implications beyond that of societal traditions. That’s why he has my blessing today, he loves his girl and they’re becoming partners in business and in life.
It’s a beautiful day for a wedding here in Viroqua, 70 degrees with a nice breeze and blue sky. I miss my girl on a day like this, she’s home because the only way I could afford this whole trip is to fly on my mom’s husband’s buddy pass on standby (see, marriage is good for something) and I got the last seat on the plane. The two of us would have never made it together and seeing as the groom was my friend first, I got to go. Well I’m at public library and time is running out so, see ya next time - knockemdown

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